@meggalegga *Months later I check DB again* - YES - you are quite correct, I really ought to upload my artworkings to DB. I regularly update my tumblr though: http://tedward.tumblr.com - if you're interested!
@Scratch What she said - You can spend your life saying "what am I doing wrong?" - Who says it's wrong? Stop worrying about HOW to enjoy life and just ENJOY it. This is like an intervention...
@Scratch Seems to me you're on a bit of a self deprecating spiral - you can focus on the bad, the negative, the not great for the rest of your life and you won't get anywhere. Don't put so much value in the opinions of others. Show some positivity...
FACT: Men base attraction on looks far more than women do. Which means as men, we assume if we don't meet our own 'ideal' of what is attractive, women won't be interested. That (luckily for all of us) isn't true!
Women like confidence, self-assurance (not too much - that can lead to being cocky), humour, caring and understanding. It's your job to convey that without being too "in your face" about it.
If you think you haven't got any of those things, you're entirely wrong - everyone does, on varying levels. But if you worry about rejection, it'll be a lot harder to let it show. Relax, be calm, and be yourself.
As it is with the rest of the animal kingdom, society dictates that we put our selves on the line to seek female approval. That'll mean being put-down, rejection and feeling a bit shit at times. The trick to getting through that is reminding yourself that if that woman wasn't interested - then you wouldn't work as a couple. So in the long run, you'd find out you didn't want to be with her anyway. If you get turned away, laugh it off, see it as an experience and enjoy yourself - there's more to life than love.
Don't look at women as people that should be impressed. Not everyone is your kind of person, you have to meet a lot before you'll narrow it down to those you have that 'certain something' in common with. When you find them, it won't be a chore to impress them, they'll find you funny, charming and endearing and see you for who you always thought you were deep down.
I have more advice - but I suppose that's the core. Just relax man, you only live once, spend all that time worrying and you won't see it for what it is. A smile is better than a frown, and it's more attractive to boot ;)
